I’ve joined Amy
Johnson Crow’s 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks Writing Challenge and am beginning with
this week’s prompt—start. Let me start
the New Year with a Guest Author (and daughter) Julia DiMunno. Continuing with
the theme, Julia is starting her
journey tracing our family’s history. Take a few moments and enjoy “When Harry
Met Nellie . . .”
A few months ago my
mother and I made a trip to the Wallkill Cemetery to “winterize” the graves of
a few of our family members, clearing off any debris or lichen that had formed
on the stones. We had been out there not so long ago to clean the graves of my
great grandparents, Frank and Viola Doty. So on this trip we were paying
attention to the Hewitt/Ludlum plot. (Note: we paid very particular attention to Aunt Ella as my
grandmother recently said “I hope you did
a good job, because if she was watching you from above I’m sure she’d have
something to say about it”. But I digress.
The Hewitt/Ludlum plot
is made up of the aforementioned Ella Wilson Ludlum and her husbands Uncle Milt
and Uncle Ray. On the Hewitt side is Uncle George Hewitt, his wife, my Aunt
Lillie (Clark) Hewitt and their daughter Nellie. Nellie is my cousin. Her mother
Lillie was the sister of my Gr. Gr. Grandmother Grace Clark Wilson. Nellie and
her husband Harry are special in our family. They died young, leaving behind no
direct descendants. As we drove out of the cemetery, a sudden thought occurred
to me--we really should go and visit Harry before the snow falls. Poor Harry,
he died so young and his grave may have been neglected over the years. (This
appears to be a requirement among the women in my family when we discuss Harry
Everett Lee. A cock of the head, hand resting lightly over heart, “Poor Harry, he died so young”). I must confess, I am very new to genealogy,
but it seems to me that I am most drawn to the kinfolk who have no one to
remember them.
As we drove out of the
cemetery that sunny day and in the coming weeks, Nellie and Harry captured my
thoughts. I wondered about the day that Harry met Nellie. They had a story to
tell, of that I was sure. Who was Harry behind ‘Harry who died so young’ and
who was the woman behind him? So I began the search to piece together their lives
and tell their story--to add flesh to bone so to speak. I must confess, it has
been a most rewarding project and I know that I’ll miss learning about these
two when this is done. So without further ado let me introduce you to them.
Harry Everett Lee was
born was May 5, 1889 in Orange County, New York. The eldest son of Thomas
Everett Lee and Clara Cairns Lee, he came from a long line of farmers who
called the Howells area in the town of Wallkill home. His paternal grandfather
was farmer turned politician, Morris E. Lee, and his paternal grandmother was
Fannie Mapes Lee, a member of the large Mapes clan. His maternal grandfather
was Robert Cairns, who was written about in the Portrait and Biological Record
of Orange County in glowing terms as “a very progressive man, and no citizen
stood higher, morally or socially than he”. Harry’s father, Thomas Everett Lee
is described as a progressive farmer and devoted family man. His mother, Clara
Cairns Lee, as we shall soon see, was a very strong woman. Harry was 1 of 4
siblings. Sister Daisy was 4 years older than him. Younger brother Robert
Lester was born in 1893, and baby Claribel came along in 1898. In 1891 the
Middletown Times Press reported that Thomas E. Lee “has purchased the Cairns
farm and will take possession at once”. The Lee family would call the farm on
Highland Lake home until the early part of the 19th century.
We don’t know much about
Harry’s early life. I would like to think that it was a happy one given the
disposition of his father and the proximity of other family members of his age
living around Highland lake. We do know that young Harry’s life was punctuated
by some losses. In 1895, Harry’s paternal grandmother, Fannie Mapes Lee, passed
away at the age of 80. Sadder yet, on January 18, 1899 baby sister Claribel
died at the family home at Highland lake. She was not quite 1 year old. Her
death was reported by The Argus, and no further details were given. Infant
mortality rates were certainly higher in Harry’s time than they are now, but it
still must have been heartbreaking for the family to lose one so young. Then in
1903 came perhaps the greatest blow of all. For on March 11, 1903, at his home
at Highland Lake, Thomas E. Lee died from complications of diabetes. His
obituary states that he had been ill for 3 years and had been confined to bed
for only 2 days before his demise. His obituary describes him as “an
industrious and progressive farmer, and a good citizen. He was devoted to his
family and fond of family life”. Thomas Lee was only 43 years old when he died.
How hard this must have been for Harry. He was 13 years old when his father
died--not quite a child and not yet a man. He was the eldest son, but he
certainly could not have handled all of his father’s responsibilities on the
farm.
Clara Cairns Lee was now
a single mother raising 3 children ranging in ages from to 9 to 18. As we shall
see, Clara was a strong and independent woman in her own right. We know that
she remained at the family farm at Highland lake at least until the later part
of 1904. In 1905, daughter Daisy Lee married Martin Mapes Bennett, leaving
Clara with her two boys, Harry and Robert. By 1907 she had moved her boys to
Middletown and was renting out the Lee farm and/or property on Highland Lake.
(Highland Lake supplied the city of Middletown with drinking water and it is
possible the city was paying her for use of the land). I think Clara must have
moved there to give her boys a better chance of finding employment. The 1907
Middletown City directory finds the Lee family renting a home at 56 Mulberry Street. Harry is employed at the local Tannery not far
from his home. By 1909 Harry was living on East Main Street and was working as
an apprentice. One year later the NYS Census finds the family living
on Orchard Street in a rented home and Harry is now employed as a plumber. This
was a trade that would serve him for the rest of this life. I believe it was
sometime around this time that Harry became a member of the Eagle Chemical
Engine Company, a fire company in Middletown that had been present since 1859.
I can only speculate on what prompted him to join the fire company. His uncle,
Morris Lee Jr. had been a much loved fireman so perhaps he influenced his young
nephew. Fire companies were also very active in their communities so perhaps
Harry was simply exposed to the company on his own. Regardless, somewhere along
the line he joined the fire company and it was a fact he took much pride in.
One additional fact we do know is that by 1909 Harry had already met Nellie.
Nellie Mae Clark Hewitt
was born on January 29, 1890. She was the only child of George B. Hewitt and
Lillian Clark. The Clark’s were a Goshen family. Grandfather Jeremiah Clark ran
a meat market and alongside Uncle Benjamin Reeve Clark, who ran a fish market,
were known as “The Market Men of Goshen”. Hailing from Fishkill, NY in Duchess
County, George Hewitt, carpenter and later a building contractor, was a
business associate of Jeremiah’s. Family lore says that Jeremiah “kept bringing
him home to dinner”. Said dinners would have included Jeremiah’s unmarried
daughter Lillie. A match was made and 28 year old George and 20 year old Lillie
married. Lillie did well for herself. George Hewitt provided for her and cared
for the next two generations of women in our family. I often say that the
history of our family would be much different had George Hewitt not come along.
After George and Lillie
married, the family moved to a rented home on Academy Avenue in Middletown, New
York. By 1903 they were homeowners in the house on Myrtle Avenue where they
would remain for many years. Nellie’s childhood appeared to be a happy one. As
the only child of George and Lillie, she seemed to be loved and perhaps a
little doted on. Newspaperarchives.com has been an absolute treasure trove for
the Middletown papers and they reveal a glimpse of life for young Nellie. There
was St. Paul’s Christmas play in 1901 entitled “Crowning Christmas” in which
young Nellie played the role of “Pictures”, a birthday party for Cousin Nettie
Clark in 1902 that included refreshments, music and a hayride, and in 1903 a
surprise party was thrown for Nellie’s 13th birthday.
Thirty-nine of her friends were in attendance and it included refreshments,
games and cards.
But in 1904 Nellie‘s
life did change. On June 24, 1904 Grace Clark Wilson, Nellie’s
aunt, died suddenly at the age of 28. She left behind her two small girls, Ella
aged 5 and Viola, aged only 4 months. As they had with the death of daughter
Minnie nearly 10 years prior, the Clark family sprang into action. Grandparents
Jeremiah and Harriet took in baby Viola, and George and Lillie took in niece
Ella. The girls’ father, Jerome Wilson who was living in Connecticut and
working for the New England Railroad, remarried in 1906 and intended to bring
both girls back to Connecticut. By then little Viola been stricken with polio
and needed more help than her grandparents could give so there was no question
that she would go. Ella however had bonded with Aunt Lillie and was reluctant
to leave. She remained with the Hewitt’s for the rest of their lives. I wonder
how this change must have been for Nellie. She was a teenager--only 14 years
old, a difficult age for any young girl. Perhaps she was used to being the only
child and having her parents’ undivided attention. Suddenly a motherless 5 year
old girl was underfoot. But all accounts point to a close relationship with all
three cousins. Countless family pictures show all three girls smiling, arms
slung round each other’s necks. I think that Nellie must have been great fun to
be around.
Of a curious note, The
Middletown Daily Argus reported that on November 18, 1907 the Eagle Chemical
Engine and Hose Company hosted their very first fair. Working the flower booth
that night was none other than Nellie Mae Hewitt. Is this perhaps where she met
Harry? If any of my Clark cousins out there know how they met, I would love to
hear it.
As I alluded to earlier,
Nellie and Harry definitely knew each other, if not already courting by 1909.
That was when they attended the wedding of Nellie’s cousin, Laura Fitzgerald to
Billy Swift. Harry was best man, and Nellie was the bridesmaid. There is a
picture of them with the wedding party, standing side by side. In 1910 the NYS
census finds Nellie, aged 19 living with her parents. By now, our Nellie is a
working girl, employed at Borden’s’ Condensery on Canal Street in Middletown.
1911 saw the wedding of another cousin, Frank Knapp to Mary Pritchard. Both
Nellie and Harry are noted as being in attendance. 1911 also saw the Hewitt
family move from the family home on Myrtle Avenue to the new house that Uncle
George built at 24 Grand Avenue, just around the corner from where they were
then living.
1912 was an eventful
year for our couple. On February 2 Harry was elected 1st Assistant
Foreman to the Eagles. Then on August 20, the couple announced their
engagement. They were married on September 11, 1912 at the house on Grand
Avenue. It appeared George Hewitt spared no expense for his only child. It
sounds like a lovely affair. The Daily Argus reported:
“A very pretty wedding was solemnized this
afternoon at the home of Mr. and Mrs. George B. Hewitt, 24 Grand avenue, when
their daughter Nellie became the bride of Harry E. Lee, of this city.
Promptly at three o'clock the
bride and groom marched into the parlor to the strains of Lohengrin, played by
the orchestra which was hidden behind a large bank of ferns, and took their
place under a large bell made of American Beauty roses. The ceremony which was
with a ring, was performed by Rev. Dr. Thomas R. Wallace, pastor of St. Paul's
Church, of this city.
The bridesmaid was Miss Viola Clark, of
Paterson, N. J., a cousin of the bride, and R. Lester Lee, a brother of the
groom, acted as best man.
The
bride was attired in a white lansdowne dress trimmed with Persian trimming and
carried a shower bouquet of white roses, and her traveling gown was a blue
tailored suit, with large picture hat to match.
The bridesmaid's gown was of pink crepe
meteor over pink silk and trimmed with dutchess lace.
The ring was carried on a cut glass heart by
Miss Viola Wilson. The home was prettily decorated with pink and white, the
decorations being by Lorentz.
After the ceremony the guests sat down to a
sumptuous banquet which was served by the bride's parents. The bride and groom
left over the Erie for a wedding journey, the destination being known only to
themselves.
Upon their return they will make their home
for the present with the bride's parents at 24 Grand avenue.
The groom's gift to the bride was a large
silver chatelaine bag, and to the best man a pearl stick pin. The bride's gift
to the bridesmaid was a brooch set with diamonds and pearls. Guests were
present from Brooklyn, Chicago, sections of Wisconsin, New York, Paterson,
Newark, Port Jervis and Goshen.
The groom is a popular young man in this city
and is First Assistant fireman of Eagle Hose Co. He is employed as plumber by
Halsey E. __?__.
The Daily Argus joins with the many friends
of the young couple in wishing them a happy journey through life.”
Nellie and Harry spent
their honeymoon at Syracuse, where they visited the State Fair, Binghamton,
Buffalo, Oswego and Niagara Falls. Many years later a drawing was found in my
great uncle’s basement of a couple posing in front of the falls; the man had a
twinkle in his eye and the woman wore an elaborate blue hat. Though it was a
mystery at first, after process of elimination my mother and grandmother
figured out it was Nellie and Harry. That picture hangs prominently in my mother’s
sewing room to this day. Upon the couple’s return to Middletown, they stayed
briefly at Harry’s home on John Street before moving in with Nellie’s parents
on Grand Avenue.
1913 was a rewarding
year for the couple for on February 4 Harry was elected Forman of the
Eagles for which he served for 1 year. They both must have been quite
proud.
Two years
later more excitement came. In 1915 Nellie and Harry left her parents’
house and moved to a rented home at 97 Montgomery St. in the town of Goshen. My
grandmother recently told me, “You come
from a long line of bossy women”. Well if we are the chips, then Aunt
Lillie was the block. She ruled the roost at Grand avenue (I say that with nothing
but affection). This must have been an exciting time for Nellie to be mistress
of her own home. Not much is known about the couple’s years in Goshen. I am not
sure what brought them there, but by 1916 Harry was employed as a plumber in
the shop of Frank C. Hock, so it is certainly possible that employment brought
them there.
However, at the time,
one rather sad event was well recorded. On March 20, 1916 Harry was working in
the home of Mr. H. M. Hubbell repairing a defective pipe when 4 year old Edith
Hubbell wandered by, coming too close to the blow torch. The Middletown Daily
Times Press reported “In order to heat a solder iron Mr. Lee lighted a blow
torch and while at work the child came into the room and walked past the torch,
her dress immediately caught fire, and in an instant the child was a mass of
flames.” Luckily, with the help of Charles Van Gelder, an employee at the
Hubbell home, the fire was extinguished quickly. Little Edith sustained
injuries to her left side and hands. A few weeks later on April 1, Harry,
along with Charles Van Gelder was presented with a gold watch for their quick
actions. The Middletown Daily Times Press reported that little Edith by then
had almost completely recovered.
By 1917 the couple had
changed address and was living at 134 West Main Street in Goshen. In June of that year, Harry
registered for the draft. By then the First World War had been raging in Europe
since 1914 and America could remain neutral no longer. Harry, however, was rejected
due to physical defects--what they may be I do not know. One year
later a promotion came Harry’s way. Sometime during the couple’s stay in
Goshen, Harry had joined the Cataracts, a Goshen’s first fire company dating
back to 1843. His employer, Frank C. Hock was the fire chief, so it is possible
that Harry joined the company through him. On April 4, 1918 Harry was elected
Second Assistant Foreman to the Cataracts. It seemed as if he was on the rise.
But time was running out
for Nellie and Harry. On November 13, 1918 at 2:30 in the afternoon, aged 30
years, Harry E. Lee died of pneumonia. His obituary states that he died at home
after a brief illness. The Goshen Independent Republican reported that he was
the third employee at Mr. Hock’s shop to die of pneumonia in one month.
Mr. Russell Earle, another employee, aged 33 years old, died a mere 1 day
before Harry. One has to wonder if the men were exposed to something.
Legionella seems a possible culprit. It is a bacterium that can grow in water
systems--most likely man made ones. The contaminated water can then be inhaled
once it spreads into droplets. It can lead to pneumonia. Perhaps we’ll never
really know what lead up to the death of a 30 year old man in the prime of his
life. Harry was buried in the Lee family plot at Howells cemetery with his
father and baby sister Claribel.
Nellie was now a widow
at the age of 28. What a shock this must have been for her to lose her husband
of just 6 years. I’m sure she thought that they had years ahead of them. Her
first move was to head back to 24 Grand Avenue in Middletown and make her home once again
with her parents and Cousin Ella. By 1920 she had gotten a job at J.V.
Demerests Dry Goods Company. Over the next few years she would work there as a
clerk and then a saleswoman. The 1920’s seemed an uneventful time for Nellie.
Her life revolved around work and family, and the various clubs she was a
member of, including the Idle Hour Club, Ladies Auxiliary of Veterans of
Foreign Wars and of Olympia Council, Daughters of America. On March 3, 1927 the
Middletown Daily Herald-Times Press reported that a surprise party was thrown
for Nellie celebrating her 37th birthday. Refreshments were
served by Aunt Lillie and cousin Viola Wilson. The group played dominos and
cards and music was provided by piano and radio. I am glad that she had this
happy time in what would be the twilight of her life. For on November 4, 1929
Nellie Mae Hewitt Lee passed away at Memorial Hospital in Middletown at the age
of 39. The cause of death was a cerebral hemorrhage. She never remarried. She
was buried at the Wallkill cemetery in the Hewitt family plot. She, like Harry,
was gone too soon.
It was a cloudy day,
with a light mist falling when my mother and I paid our visit to Harry. We had
never been there before so it took a while to find him (how had we never been
there before?). The Howells cemetery is lovely and the Lee family plot was in
very good condition. Harry had not been neglected over the years after all. He
is there with his parents, his brother Robert, and baby sister Claribel. Sister
Daisy is not far from him and his Cairns and Mapes relatives are nearby.
It felt right to be
there and pay respects to this kinsman of mine to let him know that he was not
forgotten. The Jewish people have a tradition of placing a stone on the grave
of a loved one. It is a physical reminder that someone was there. Long after
flowers have withered the stone remains. Before we left Howells cemetery that
day, I placed a stone that I had taken from nearby Nellie’s grave atop the Lee
family grave--a gift from Nellie to Harry, delivered by her cousin 89 years
later.
~ Julia DiMunno (first cousin 3 times removed
to Nellie Mae Hewitt)